Hello there

It goes without saying that we are all somewhere in some situation in some aspect our lives that we feel like needs some sort of love, attention and change. Now change can be and often is a very intimidating word for me. And it’s not even because I actively do not want change. Simply I do not know exactly why I have this innate fear of change.

How many times have you uttered the phrase, “I’m working on myself,”?

And how many times did you stick to working on yourself? Is it a winding road or is it a comfort mechanism for us to fall back into the habits that we consciously know we need to grow out of?

Psychology is a weird thing. And I mean a really, really weird thing. I opted to take on psychology as my Minor at Eastern Washington University because they had the best psychology department in the state, it was during a time that I needed some self-reflection and I wanted to better understand why my peers and I do the things we do.

It’s sort of like wanting to learn about cars or computers, wiring or architecture. Why do things happen and what causes people to enact their emotions? These were questions that I would have answered incorrectly yet confidently prior to the courses that I took. People want to grow not because they want to see the sun shine, but rather they grow because they don’t want to spend their whole life in the same bit of dirt they were born in.

Growth is an investment. You have to wake up, eat, breathe and sleep your growth. Like a relationship or a dream, if you want to grow you must buy in to the idea and give yourself every chance to succeed. Nobody else will give you these opportunities, and with our time already so limited, ask yourself…

Why would somebody else invest in you if you won’t invest in yourself?

Trust me when I tell you that choosing to love yourself will be the greatest decision that you will ever make. Because it is a choice. You have to commit to yourself and give yourself a shot. It’s taken me years to understand that and I have been applying it in the past handful of years and I am at a point in my growth that I can look at myself in the reflection that stares back at me and feel comfortable with the man that I have & will continue to grow into.

You can do it too, I know you can.

love trev